How To Conquer Anger
SOME FUNDAMENTALS
At Indore one Gentleman came to me and said, “I often get very angry. Kindly guide me so that I may control anger. I said, I give you one hymn (mantra) incanation Keep it with you. When you get anger read it.
In the capital letter I have given him hymn. I gave him a piece of paper writing there on “I AM IN THE STATE OF ANGER.” He took the paper and read it and said.” are you joking” I am not cutting joke once try to follow my intstruction.
you will be relieved from anger, you will loose nothing just try and follow my instruction. Read it when you are in anger. He said, What difference it will make. I said, It shall bring a definite change, follow it and meet me after a week.
Unwillingly he took up the paper and went away. After one week he came to me and said munisri “Miracle happened.” I felt wonder. There was strange effect due to the paper. When ever I get angry my hand – automatically goes to my pocket to pick up the paper and l feel partly relieved from the anger and when I use to read, “I am under anger I felt completely relieved from the anger.
Oh munisri what a mircaculous effect. I also advise you to perform this experience anger will be reduced. At the time of anger, one can realise that he is under anger, he can save himself from anger to a great degree.
If he balances himself he will be automatically be relived from the anger because the man is not so shameless as to be under anger, reading and realising that he is under anger. There is no need to suppress the anger. The necessity is only to realise it.
The anger will not end due to supression. By suppression it will travel in sight and will spread in the consciousness. Suppressed anger is more dangerous as such, in. It journey’s side. Try to observe and realise that you are under anger.
Observing and realising anger is a difficult task. Suppression becames stout anger. It clouds and destroy consciousness. It is difficult to see anger in the unconscious state of mind. By constant practice every thing is possible. Absolute determination is essential.
Dont fight with anger. If you will fight you will not win. You wil have to face defeat. Anger is horrible and powerful. Face anger withpeace, forgiveness you will get success in defeating anger. If you will suppress anger it will follow you.
If you will try to by pass anger it will walk ahead and lead. It is habit of the mind. Denial is not control. Mind will pick up-those things which you will deny. Mind will be curious to achieve, those things. Which you will exclude, we remember those things which we try to forget.
This is the old saying, “dont remember Tomato (BSaBU) from eight o’clock to twelve o’clock, throughout you will remember tomato. After twelve o’clock tomato will be out of you memory. There is a common attraction in the denial and restriction. We are curious to face which is under curtain.
Denial is a kind of invitation to the mind. In the denial period you will remember the things which are denied from time to time. Second Principle To Control Anger If you are under anger, delay, dont go in hurry. Anger is inauspicious.
Anger is sin, Lord – Mahavir said, “If you want to do any pious work, start and complete it without delay. Dont leave it for tomorrow. Complete it, because the future moment is in dark. Who knows? You will take next breath or not? Please try to justify the moment A saint advised you to remember God for twenty one thousand times in twenty four hours.
You know why ? Because man breaths Twenty one thousand six hundred times in twenty four hours and saint advises to remember the supreme and universal observer for twenty four hours. Dont delay even for a moment. In pious work but if you want to commit anger leave if for tomorrow.
The man is of absurd mind when he wants to commit sin he at once start without momental delay. If one wants to smoke, he will at once start smoking. If one wants take tobacco at once he will take. In conclusion man try to satisfy his habits without delay.
The question arises for doing religious and pious things why he postpones for tomorrow when death comes and every thing ends. If any one hurts you through abusive words, try to postpone for tomorrow. Dont reply immediately. Saints never reply abuses in abusive language.
Tit for tat should not be in habit, barking dog can answer in barking manner. We are human beings We should not reply in the abusive language. We must reply the abusive words in very polite manner, with love and affection. Face the coming stone in the smiling manner.
We commits sin without delay and with cruelty. We see anger with deep concentration, i suggest dont try to see anger with cruelty. Anger is jealous, lustless unwilling. Delay in anger is essential and beneficial. At the time of death Gurgaf said to his son.
I have nothing to give you except, what was given by my father at the time of his death. What I am giving you is rare, uncomparable nectar Following his instructions I have completed my life journey with peace and satisfaction. If you want to lead happy life remember one thing.
If you fall in anger upon any one, tell him that I will answer your question after twenty four hours and take leave from him for twenty four hours. Think over the words for twenty four hours and after twenty four hours, if you consider necessary, answer the question.
Than the answer will be of your choice. Gurgaf wrote in his (auto Biography) life history. This sutra (Aphorism) has filled my life with heavenly pleasure, this has brought evolution in my life. After twenty four hours I felt there is nothing to answer. Because,If the man has rightly said than my answer is meaning less, sheer foolishness and I must felt obliged.
If his saying was false than there is no necessity to answer. The untruth in both circumstances. I will be able to maintain the balance of mind. The best cure of anger is delay. you can practically realise when you are entering in anger postpone – if only for five minute, not for twenty four hours, if you postpone or delay, you will be able to conquer anger because anger is momental.
It’s a temperament when temperement is normal, you can not harm others.
Fourth Principle To Conquer Anger By meditation you can enrich your consciousness. Consciousness of mind never comes within the clutches of anger.
Sub conscious mind is always caught by the evil of anger. Man is a social creature. He lives in the society. Deals with the community with words. Man is effected by the words. He feels pleasure when he hears words of appreciation but gets disturbed when he is blamed.
It’s most natural that appreciation gives him pleasure and disappreciation disturbes him. The words are Non living Lord Mahavir Says. non living – pudgal Is life less but it has wonderful capacity to influence consciousness and soul.
If one can realise the truth of the words than the abusive words will not disturbe him. For realising the truth of the words, conscious state of mind and concentration is esential. Words are self-sufficient and alive. Words speak but rare one can hear their sound.
Only those can hear their sound, who are Thinkers and capable of doing meditation. They can play with words. Misunderstanding is also cause of anger. Misunder standing confuses the man. The words discloses the truth but to realise truth one must have concentrated Consciousness.
When anger goes, repentance comes. By penitence the anger never ends. Penitence is the effect of anger. It is not cause of removal of anger. The real cause is Repentence. Repentance of transgression and renunciation. Your are man, having mind and knowledge.
Why dont you think. Think and try to reach in the depth of the words anger will vanish. By contemplation and right thinking try to live with words. Definitely you will be able to controll and conquer anger. Some Other Principles To Conquer Anger(Sutra) 1.Be Silent when you find any cause of anger.
2.Start reverse counting when you found any cause of anger. 3.See your face, once in a mirror in the state of anger. 4.When you are under anger drink one glass of cold water and keep your mouth full of water. 5.When other is burning with the flame of anger, be cool, like cold water.
Please try to adopt any one principle as mentioned above. In the state of anger, anger will be helpless.Whether Renunciation brings equality ? and anger use to vanish. If the renunciation is reial and it is from the depth of the soul, in such state renunciation will be helpful.
If the renunciation is shallow, just a curtain, than there is very little possibility. Ascetics are generally of loose temper. Such Ascetics are not real. Their renunciation has not taken birth from the bottom of the heart. Real saint always lives in equality. There was very short tempered man living in a town. He used to be angry without cause. Rather it was part of his nature.
One day under an attack of fury he burnt his wife. He throw his son from the top of the building, both died. It is highly difficult to give any guidance to such angry person. It is highly impossible to show mirror to snub Nosed person.
When that person has lost every thing he feels repentance, for his in human acts. Anger kills every desire of man. The angry man hurts himself and others. He hates himself and others, he hurts himself and others. Anger begins with false notions and ends in repentance.
The angry man feel very much repentance. Angry man feels repentance throughout his life but never gets rid of the anger. Anger never ends with repentance, it ends through a strict vow not to repeat in future. That angry man did nothing except anger throughout his life, the man felt repentance throughout his life, he was ashamed him self. He was condemned by villagers.
In the mean time a saint came in the village, he went to pay him regards, he placed his head in the pious feet of the saint and said, “I am high tempered man. I have destroyed my family. I am burning with anger like a furnace.
I use to blind in anger. Kindly relieve me from the evil. “The saint replied, If you convert yourself as saint you will be reieived from the evil of anger.” The man became Asetic. In single stroke of determination he left every thing. The villagers and saint felt surprise.
The SAINT give him new name shanti prasad and said “your determination is worth appreciable.” The saint was not aware with the truth. This is another form of anger. The man who murdered his wife and son, can leave the clothes easily. This is another form of disclosure of anger.
Then he began. Concentration and meditation. His devotion was also comparatively better than that of others saints. Other saints use to take food once in twenty four hours. Shanti prasad use to observe taste for two to three days.
Other disciples used to walk on the National highway, Shantiprasad used to travel on the Forest Track. Other disuples used to perform meditation in shades. Shanti prsad meditated in the sunheat After some time he was reduced in the shape of skeleton, his colour became black.
ANGER is a very dangerous thing. Anger feels pleasure in giving pain. When he fails to find, others he reflects punishment over him self. Angry man can do any thing beyond your imagination. His acts are in different form of anger. Formerly he was angry on others.
Now he is reflecting anger on him self. His fame spread from one village to another village. Soon he become very famous hermit and was worshiped. He went to a city and there his friend recognised him, he felt surprised how his wicked friend became hermit, he was a very short tempered man.
When he went near him Shantiprasad fail to recognise him. Then he asked question, Oh ! “What is your real name.” The saint saw him with curious eyes and said, “You dont know my name ? Every one is familier with my name. My name is Saint Shantiprasad.
His friend again repeates the same question with the intention to know his real name. The Saint Shantiprasad became full of anger or and he has uttered abusive language. Have you not lost your dignity and fame What you have said in anger? you could have said in smiling tone.
His friend said to Shantiprasad Oh Saint I have undergo every thing. You are the same old person with the same personality, only your shape has been changed. Goodbye. It makes no difference whether your name is shantiprasad or jwala prashad, you are unchanged. friends – you can not change the soul by changing the form.
Change in character brings change in the soul. Sheer form is not sufficient. Character is essential according to personality. No one can be saint by changing the form only. It is essential to realise the truth. Renunciation takes birth by changing the soul and not by changing the form.
The Ascetic takes birth by change of soul can Conquer Anger, Passion, Attachment And Pride It’s a inner event. Rennunciation is achivement of soul. At the close of speech I want to express, that it is easy to get angry then to relinquish it. Often every sin is result of anger. Anger destroys knowledge, intelligence and brings miseries in life.
Stop anger by forgiveness so that you may lead peaceful and pleasureful life. Be cautious and conscious. No one can fall in to anger in the Conscious state of mind. I feel obliged that you heard me with pleasure and in peace.
At Indore one Gentleman came to me and said, “I often get very angry. Kindly guide me so that I may control anger. I said, I give you one hymn (mantra) incanation Keep it with you. When you get anger read it. In the capital letter I have given him hymn.
I gave him a piece of paper writing there on “I AM IN THE STATE OF ANGER.” He took the paper and read it and said.” are you joking” I am not cutting joke once try to follow my intstruction. you will be relieved from anger, you will loose nothing just try and follow my instruction.
Read it when you are in anger. He said, What difference it will make. I said, It shall bring a definite change, follow it and meet me after a week. Unwillingly he took up the paper and went away.
After one week he came to me and said MUNISRI “Miracle happened.” I felt wonder.
There was strange effect due to the paper. When ever I get angry my hand – automatically goes to my pocket to pick up the paper and l feel partly relieved from the anger and when I use to read, “I am under anger I felt completely relieved from the anger.
Oh MUNISRI what a mircaculous effect. I also advise you to perform this experience anger will be reduced. At the time of anger, one can realise that he is under anger, he can save himself from anger to a great degree.
If he balances himself he will be automatically be relived from the anger because the man is not so shameless as to be under anger, reading and realising that he is under anger. There is no need to suppress the anger. The necessity is only to realise it.
The anger will not end due to supression. By suppression it will travel in sight and will spread in the consciousness. Suppressed anger is more dangerous as such, in. It journey’s side. Try to observe and realise that you are under anger.
Observing and realising anger is a difficult task. Suppression becames stout anger. It clouds and destroy consciousness. It is difficult to see anger in the unconscious state of mind. By constant practice every thing is possible. Absolute determination is essential.
Dont fight with anger. If you will fight you will not win. You wil have to face defeat. Anger is horrible and powerful. Face anger with peace, forgiveness you will get success in defeating anger. If you will suppress anger it will follow you. If you will try to by pass anger it will walk ahead and lead.
It is habit of the mind. Denial is not control. Mind will pick up-those things which you will deny. Mind will be curious to achieve, those things. Which you will exclude, we remember those things which we try to forget.
This is the old saying, “dont remember Tomato (BSABU) from eight o’clock to twelve o’clock, throughout you will remember tomato. After twelve o’clock tomato will be out of you memory. There is a common attraction in the denial and restriction.
We are curious to face which is under curtain. Denial is a kind of invitation to the mind. In the denial period you will remember the things which are denied from time to time.
Second Principle To Control Anger
If you are under anger, delay, dont go in hurry. Anger is inauspicious. Anger is sin, Lord – Mahavir said, “If you want to do any pious work, start and complete it without delay. Dont leave it for tomorrow. Complete it, because the future moment is in dark.
Who knows? You will take next breath or not? Please try to justify the moment A saint advised you to remember God for twenty one thousand times in twenty four hours. You know why ? Because man breaths Twenty one thousand six hundred times in twenty four hours and saint advises to remember the supreme and universal observer for twenty four hours.
Dont delay even for a moment. In pious work but if you want to commit anger leave if for tomorrow. The man is of absurd mind when he wants to commit sin he at once start without momental delay. If one wants to smoke, he will at once start smoking.
If one wants take tobacco at once he will take. In conclusion man try to satisfy his habits without delay. The question arises for doing religious and pious things why he postpones for tomorrow when death comes and every thing ends.
If any one hurts you through abusive words, try to postpone for tomorrow. Dont reply immediately. Saints never reply abuses in abusive language. Tit for tat should not be in habit, barking dog can answer in barking manner.
We are human beings We should not reply in the abusive language. We must reply the abusive words in very polite manner, with love and affection. Face the coming stone in the smiling manner. We commits sin without delay and with cruelty.
We see anger with deep concentration, i suggest dont try to see anger with cruelty. Anger is jealous, lustless unwilling. Delay in anger is essential and beneficial. At the time of death Gurgaf said to his son. I have nothing to give you except, what was given by my father at the time of his death.
What I am giving you is rare, uncomparable nectar Following his instructions I have completed my life journey with peace and satisfaction. If you want to lead happy life remember one thing. If you fall in anger upon any one, tell him that I will answer your question after twenty four hours and take leave from him for twenty four hours.
Think over the words for twenty four hours and after twenty four hours, if you consider necessary, answer the question. Than the answer will be of your choice. Gurgaf wrote in his (auto Biography) life history. This sutra (Aphorism) has filled my life with heavenly pleasure, this has brought evolution in my life.
After twenty four hours I felt there is nothing to answer. Because,If the man has rightly said than my answer is meaning less, sheer foolishness and I must felt obliged. If his saying was false than there is no necessity to answer. The untruth in both circumstances. I will be able to maintain the balance of mind. The best cure of anger is delay.
you can practically realise when you are entering in anger postpone – if only for five minute, not for twenty four hours, if you postpone or delay, you will be able to conquer anger because anger is momental. It’s a temperament when temperement is normal, you can not harm others.
[[file:Smiley-angry.jpg|center]]Fourth Principle To Conquer Anger
By meditation you can enrich your consciousness. Consciousness of mind never comes within the clutches of anger. Sub conscious mind is always caught by the evil of anger. Man is a social creature. He lives in the society. Deals with the community with words. Man is effected by the words.
He feels pleasure when he hears words of appreciation but gets disturbed when he is blamed. It’s most natural that appreciation gives him pleasure and disappreciation disturbes him.
The words are Non living
Lord Mahavir Says.
NON LIVING – PUDGAL Is life less but it has wonderful capacity to influence consciousness and soul. If one can realise the truth of the words than the abusive words will not disturbe him. For realising the truth of the words, conscious state of mind and concentration is esential.
Words are self-sufficient and alive. Words speak but rare one can hear their sound. Only those can hear their sound, who are Thinkers and capable of doing meditation. They can play with words. Misunderstanding is also cause of anger.
Misunder standing confuses the man. The words discloses the truth but to realise truth one must have concentrated Consciousness. When anger goes, repentance comes. By penitence the anger never ends. Penitence is the effect of anger. It is not cause of removal of anger. The real cause is Repentence. Repentance of transgression and renunciation.
Your are man, having mind and knowledge. Why dont you think. Think and try to reach in the depth of the words anger will vanish. By contemplation and right thinking try to live with words. Definitely you will be able to controll and conquer anger.
Some Other Principles To Conquer Anger(Sutra)
1.Be Silent when you find any cause of anger.
2.Start reverse counting when you found any cause of anger.
3.See your face, once in a mirror in the state of anger.
4.When you are under anger drink one glass of cold water and keep your mouth full of water.
5.When other is burning with the flame of anger, be cool, like cold water.
Please try to adopt any one principle as mentioned above. In the state of anger, anger will be helpless. Whether Renunciation brings equality ? and anger use to vanish. If the renunciation is real and it is from the depth of the soul, in such state renunciation will be helpful.
If the renunciation is shallow, just a curtain, than there is very little possibility. Ascetics are generally of loose temper. Such Ascetics are not real. Their renunciation has not taken birth from the bottom of the heart. Real saint always lives in equality.
There was very short tempered man living in a town. He used to be angry without cause. Rather it was part of his nature. One day under an attack of fury he burnt his wife. He throw his son from the top of the building, both died. It is highly difficult to give any guidance to such angry person.
It is highly impossible to show mirror to snub Nosed person. When that person has lost every thing he feels repentance, for his in human acts. Anger kills every desire of man. The angry man hurts himself and others. He hates himself and others, he hurts himself and others.
Anger begins with false notions and ends in repentance. The angry man feel very much repentance. Angry man feels repentance throughout his life but never gets rid of the anger. Anger never ends with repentance, it ends through a strict vow not to repeat in future.
That angry man did nothing except anger throughout his life, the man felt repentance throughout his life, he was ashamed him self. He was condemned by villagers. In the mean time a SAINT came in the village, he went to pay him regards, he placed his head in the pious feet of the saint and said, “I am high tempered man.
I have destroyed my family. I am burning with anger like a furnace. I use to blind in anger. Kindly relieve me from the evil. “The saint replied, If you convert yourself as saint you will be reieived from the evil of anger.” The man became Asetic. In single stroke of determination he left every thing.
The villagers and saint felt surprise. The saint give him new name Shanti prasad and said “your determination is worth appreciable.” The saint was not aware with the truth. This is another form of anger. The man who murdered his wife and son, can leave the clothes easily.
This is another form of disclosure of anger. Then he began. Concentration and meditation. His devotion was also comparatively better than that of others saints. Other saints use to take food once in twenty four hours. Shanti prasad use to observe taste for two to three days.
Other disciples used to walk on the National highway, Shantiprasad used to travel on the Forest Track. Other disuples used to perform meditation in shades. Shanti prsad meditated in the sunheat After some time he was reduced in the shape of skeleton, his colour became black.
ANGER is a very dangerous thing. Anger feels pleasure in giving pain. When he fails to find, others he reflects punishment over him self. Angry man can do any thing beyond your imagination. His acts are in different form of anger. Formerly he was angry on others. Now he is reflecting anger on him self.
HIS fame spread from one village to another village. Soon he become very famous hermit and was worshiped. He went to a city and there his friend recognised him, he felt surprised how his wicked friend became hermit, he was a very short tempered man.
When he went near him Shanti prasad fail to recognise him. Then he asked question, Oh ! “What is your real name.” The saint saw him with curious eyes and said, “You dont know my name ? Every one is familier with my name. My name is Saint Shantiprasad.
His friend again repeates the same question with the intention to know his real name. The Saint Shantiprasad became full of anger or and he has uttered abusive language. Have you not lost your dignity and fame What you have said in anger? you could have said in smiling tone.His friend said to Shantiprasad
Oh Saint I have undergo every thing. You are the same old person with the same personality, only your shape has been changed. Goodbye. It makes no difference whether your name is shantiprasad or jwala prashad, you are unchanged.
Friends – you can not change the soul by changing the form.Change in character brings change in the soul. Sheer form is not sufficient. Character is essential according to personality. No one can be saint by changing the form only. It is essential to realise the truth.
Renunciation takes birth by changing the soul and not by changing the form. The Ascetic takes birth by change of soul can Conquer anger, passion, attachment and pride It’s a inner event. Rennunciation is achivement of soul. At the close of speech I want to express, that it is easy to get angry then to relinquish it.
Often every sin is result of anger. Anger destroys knowledge, intelligence and brings miseries in life. Stop anger by forgiveness so that you may lead peaceful and pleasureful life. Be cautious and conscious. No one can fall in to anger in the Conscious state of mind. I feel obliged that you heard me with pleasure and in peace.
