Suspicion is such a thing which troubles a peaceful life, brings a turmoil in thoughts, blunts talent and fills mind with complexes.
You are relaxing somewhere. Dialogue is on, when someone close to you, comes. He requests your friend to hear him in a secluded place. They, moved slightly away, converse in low tones. Suspicion obsesses your mind. What is that? Are they criticizing me? Are they planning some conspiracy to put me in distress? Is any fatal news going to be out? And you realize yourself being caught in a magical noose of suspicion.
Why is it that you think others watch you with a jealous eye, as if everybody criticizes you, puts you to some disadvantage, tries to bring something inauspicious for you? Why is it that everybody seems to you as if a wicked or an enemy?
This is due to the weakness of your mind. Due to slight diversion in your way of thinking: the same man seems to you as an enemy one moment and as a friend the other moment; your words will seem to you as bearing praise, not criticism; your speech bearing graceful behaviour, not bitter words; your behaviour replete of intimacy, not resentment.Suspicion should find no place. It should not be allowed to be born.
Some persons proceeded together on a journey. On the way there was a jungle, where they had to stay for rest during night. In the jungle there was a terror of robbers. who really came over there and started looting them.
of them a youngster was also asked by the robbers to hand over all his possessions. He gave them one hundred gold coins. They asked. ‘Do you have anything more ?’
The youngster told. Of course I have more, but I am not going to spare that. You send your leader whom the rest will be given. When the leader came the youngster was going through a book. Showing that book to him he told. This book is my wealth.
The leader asked him to hand over the same and the youngster told, ‘No, not like this, first you will have to listen to something from this book.”
The young man read for him the touching descripiton: how stealing brings demerits; what are the consequences of torturing others; one’s own mental trouble caused by troubling others; and so on. This impressed the leader so much that he gave all the looted things back.
Confidence emerges in the absence of suspicious confidence. Confidence causes the success of the affairs which had been remaining unsuccessful.
A man standing ashore of a sea was looking at a ship anchored away from there. He decided to swim to and fro the ship. He jumped into the sea and reached there. While returning back he thought, the distance is too much for me to cover.’ He got so disheartened, that he was about to sink in the sea.
At once he started thinking the other way. ‘Never can I be defeated. I have come swimming, then why can I not go back swimming?’ He was pervaded with the enthusiasm he had never experienced before. And he swam back to the shore.
Suspicion would have not allowed him to reach back. and he would certainly have sunk into the water of the sea, whereas, his confidence succeeded in giving him an enthusiastic life.
Life is paved with difficulties, which inspire one for a struggle. We should always remember, ‘unsuccess is the first step of success. And this verse must always be remembered as a source of inspiration.
‘Affairs are successful decidely by efforts. Animals do not enter the mouth of a lion in sleep.’
Efforts result into a tranquillity of mind:
‘In the presence of tranquillity all one’s distresses go absent. Whose mind is tranquillized his talent is established.
How inspiring are the following maxims from the Atharava-veda:
‘Standing atop in any field is a great achievement.
‘Efforts bring success.”
“You go higher up than those who are equal to you, and get equal to those who are higher than you.”
Full of this type of confidence the mind leaves no room for any type of suspicion. Suspicion is breeded only where common sense lacks. Let us mould ourselves according to the situations, so that no suspicion arises. A Seth had got his daughter married. Being the youngest she was given excessive fondling which had made her shameless, rigid and rude. Ego and loose temperament were invariably seen with each of her activity. She was no good at any aspect of home sciences. Dissatisfaction grew in the household, as she failed in impressing even a single one.
Each one of her in-laws also wished not to have intimacy with her. She also did not feel homely there. She wrote to her father, who sent her brother.
After a quarrel with all the in-laws she left for her parents’ house. Throughout the journey, she had been abusing her in-laws before her brother. She broke in tears as soon as she reached home. The dialogue between the father and daughter was like this:
‘How did you like your in-laws’ home?
“Absolutely a hell.”
‘How did you like your father-in-law?’ ‘
‘He is a real demon.’
‘How is your mother-in-law?’
‘Devilish as she has been since her last birth.
Your husband’s sister?”
‘She is very quarrelsome and back-biter.”
‘Your husband’s younger brother?”
‘Number one vagabond, a fellow liar and faithless.”
‘How do you like your husband’s elder brother?’
‘He is greedy, miser and sensuous.”
‘He is the Yamaraja incarnate.”
The father tried to remove her dissatisfaction. Each one in the household cannot be equally bad. There should be some mistake or the other in the girl. He thought she would have to be tackled with patience, He, therefore, kept quiet that day.
The other day he asked. ‘O my daughter, should you wish. I will give you such an incantation which will bring all your in-laws under control.’
The girl had wished the same. She immediately agreed to the proposal. The father told. ‘But, my daughter. accomplishing that incantation is not so easy. You will have to undergo trying efforts. During that time you will have to keep anger away. Continuously for six months you will have not to be involved in any quarrel with anybody, any time, on any problem. The daughter agreed and the father taught her to do the needful.
After she came back every one of her in-laws was wondering, when they came in touch with her, as she started performing her share of household duties. Her mistakes invited curses and criticisms, but she uttered no word, she kept quiet.
The changes were visible the next day. The behaviour of the household people started changing. Much was changed within a week. The girl thought. “The incantation is so powerful that it took only one week to show results.”
The results in six months were so happy that the mother-in-law transferred all the household responsibilities to the daughter-in-law, whose advice became inevitable for all the affairs there.
One day all of a sudden the brother went to bring his sister, but none of the in-laws was prepared to let her go. Her brother’s request was, however, honoured.
All through the journey she continued praising her in-laws. The father welcomed the happy daughter. Their dialogue this time:
How did you like your in-laws’ home this time?
O my father, that place is heavenly.”
‘How did you like your father-in-law?”
He is affectionate to me more than you.
” How is your mother-in-law?”
It was her love due to that I felt no uneasiness in separation of my mother.’
What about your husband’s sister?’
‘Nobody could be a better friend of mine than she.’
“And the younger brother of your husband?’
‘He pays to me the same regards as he pays to his mother.”
How did you like your husband’s elder brother?
‘He is really an exemplary brother.”
‘And what of my son-in-law?”
‘O my father, he is the God incarnate.”
Such a big diversion. It is all due to one’s own moulding in accordance with the situations.
This story signifies how the popular behaviours and situations change. It also tells that baseless suspicion does not find place if we do not allow it to have one.